Internet dating buddhists
If you separate the concept of dating from the concept of finding true love, you will relax, have more fun, and be more open to being surprised.
As for me, after a number of dates from popular Internet dating sites, I tried a Buddhist dating site.
An Indian religion, Buddhism encompasses a variety of traditions, beliefs and spiritual practices largely based on original teachings attributed to the Buddha and resulting interpreted philosophies.
Buddhism originated in ancient India as a Sramana tradition sometime between the 6th and 4th centuries BCE, spreading through much of Asia.
Some of us are tempted to relive every dating mistake we’ve ever made in our mind, or worse, pay bitterness from a former relationship forward to the next people we meet. Sure, at first, it feels like your love is unshakeable and everlasting. I’m not saying that people DESERVE to have bad dates, but there are folks out there entertaining the mistaken idea that the world owes them a boy- or girlfriend. If you treat people like they are out for themselves and will betray you at the first available opportunity…you will probably find what you are looking for.
Four months later, you are shocked to find yourself wanting to smother him with a pillow because you can’t stand the way he grinds his teeth when he sleeps. In fact, this would be a good time to remind you that… In fact, we've all heard the story about people finding peace with singleness (Singlitude? )--and then meeting someone, throwing their entire world into disarray. If you expect the best from people while being clear about what those expectations are, you have a better than even chance of finding someone who can meet them. Learn to notice the warning signs and stop going out with them.
All Buddhist traditions share the goal of overcoming suffering and the cycle of death and rebirth, either by the attainment of Nirvana or through the path of Buddhahood.Learn more about him at danbrodribb.Buddhists need love too. I’m always looking for ways to reduce suffering in my life while training myself to be a more compassionate, equanimous person. I remember reading a Buddhist book and thinking, “You know, you could substitute the word ‘dating’ for the word ‘meditation’ and you could have pretty much the same book.”You learn surprising things about yourself when you go out with people. And if you’re lucky, you get to practice some righteous smooching (Not to be confused with Right Smooching which isn’t part of the eightfold path, but at times I think should be).I mean, I realize I’m relatively new to the practice of meditation, but we can’t ALL be monks, right? But online dating comes with it’s own challenges, especially if you’re new to it or returning to the dating world following a long term relationship.3 - Everything Changes Sometimes, when you’re feeling single and frustrated and miserable, it feels like you’ll be that way forever. Wondering why women never call you back after the first date?Time to take a look in the mirror and see what you‘re putting out there. After all, right smooching might not be on the Eightfold Path, but with the right person, it’s a heck of a lot of fun.
But on that first date, clearly I did not match the mental image he had formed during our emails (ouch).